Ruby Falk, MA, LPC
MY SPECIALTIES
Couples Therapy
You used to enjoy each other’s company. Sex didn’t feel like a chore. And you remember a time when everything wasn’t an argument. But then things changed. Maybe you had kids, suffered a loss, experienced a job change, or moved across the country. What used to feel easy and comfortable now feels full of resentment and despair. The relationship and “the problem” have become synonymous.
I know when you’re in it this deep, it feels like there’s little-to-no-hope that you can go back to the relationship you remember. And that’s not entirely wrong - you can’t ever go back to something that has been through such major life-changes. Neither you nor your partner are the same person, either. And that’s ok!
Together, we’ll create lasting and effective changes to your relationship. You and your partner will develop communication skills that feel doable for both of you, as well as coping mechanisms to help you realize that the problems in your relationship do not define the relationship.
Grief and Loss
Death of a loved one is one of the only universal experiences we have. All people, no matter what, will experience loss. How is it, then, that when we do lose someone, we feel so unprepared to navigate the aftermath? It’s an incredibly isolating experience, leading you to wonder if other people are struggling with it as much as you are. The weight of your grief is unbearable, and you can’t imagine that anything can help ease the pain.
But grief is more than simply feeling heartbroken. It’s grappling with the level of control you thought you had. It’s questioning your last interaction you had with your loved one. It’s living with the fear that you could soon lose someone else you love. Grief can rob you of your sense of security, making it feel impossible to recover.
Together, we can create a space where your grief is not something to “fix” but something to gently process and integrate into your day-to-day life. Through thoughtful conversation, guided exercises, and practical tools, we’ll work toward acceptance, healing, and eventually, peace.
Whether your loss was expected or sudden, we will create a tailor-made approach to your grief that feels genuine and supportive.
Anxiety
Your life feels overrun by fear and angst. You want to “trust the process” but “the process” has failed you more than once. Thinking about change seems daunting because, even though you’re unhappy, confronting the unknown is way worse. Living with anxiety, as exhausting as it may be, has become strangely familiar - you know it, you’ve managed it for years, so why stop now?
Here’s the truth: your anxiety once served a protective purpose, keeping you alert and helping you navigate challenges. For a time, it may have kept you safe and prepared you for what felt threatening. But that inner voice, once a guardian, may have become a harsh critic. It tells you you’re not enough or warns you of dangers that don’t exist. It has built walls where there doesn’t need to be any.
You can honor your inner voice and push back on it at the same time. Challenging the role anxiety plays in your life is not the same thing as trying to rid yourself of it altogether. Rather, it’s about gaining control over how much influence you’re willing to accept, and how much influence you choose to reject.
In therapy, we’ll work together to create a new balance — one where you can acknowledge your anxiety without giving it permission to overtake your life. You’ll learn to regain stability and comfort, not by banishing your fears, but by learning how to navigate them with clarity and confidence. Together, we will craft a path toward a more peaceful, empowered way of being.
Postpartum
The joy that accompanies becoming a new parent is often matched by confusion, doubt, guilt, shame, or anxiety. And, lately, you struggle to connect with that joy because the negative emotions surrounding your postpartum feel too overwhelming.
Parenthood was supposed to be different - it was supposed to be a time of connection, overwhelming love, and feeling certain about this major life decision. How could things feel so vastly different from what you anticipated?
You are a great parent and you struggle with your partner. You love your baby and you miss certain aspects of your old life. You wanted this baby and you miss being alone with your partner. Multiple things can be true at once, and that doesn’t mean you are any less equipped to be a parent. It means you have the ability to turn inward and tend to yourself, so that you can show up as a parent (and for yourself) as the greatest, most fulfilled version of yourself.
Throughout the therapeutic process, you will learn to approach yourself with a sense of softness and compassion for everything you’re trying to accomplish (on very little sleep, no less!). We'll create a path forward that feels empowering and supportive, giving you the tools to approach parenthood with the sense of confidence and certainty that you're looking for.